Smokey the Bear
If anyone is never at fault in what he says, he is a perfect man, able
to keep his body in check.
James 3:2
Do you sometimes feel that you body
has a mind of its own? Do you eat when you’re not hungry; lay on the couch when
there’s work to be done; throw and/or slam things when you’re angry? Do you
feel out of control sometimes? I do.
James provided insight into this
dilemma and the solution is all in our mouths. James states that anyone who
controls what they say can exert dominion over themselves in all areas. Easier
said than done, no pun intended, James compared spoken words to forest fires. I
lived in Florida and experienced
several severe wildfire seasons. The amount of destruction and the breadth of
the damage were enormous. Once ignited, they moved swiftly and gobbled up
everything in their path. It took huge amounts of manpower and equipment to extinguish
or at least control firestorms caused by a small spark. I remember when I
should have had Smokey the Bear in tow to quench the blazes my words started.
How does control of our words keep
everything else in line? The secret is discipline. To think before we speak can
be difficult; to determine a proper response or a lack there of takes work. Our
words shape our mindsets that make us who we are. Our base of operation is
built on the belief system we’ve developed. At times it’s so subtle we don’t
realize what’s happened. For example, have you ever said something like this?
“I always get the flu!” What appears to be a statement of fact is also a
declaration of expectation. Past history proved you got sick during flu season.
When you made that statement did your thoughts agree or disagree with your
words? Do past bouts with the flu provide validation for your anticipated
results for this year? Does it drive you crazy that while you get sick all the
time others around you suffer no ill effects and get off scot-free? Exposed to
the same environment, they seem immune. Perhaps they’ve a different set of
expectations that work in their defense.
Have you talked yourself out of
something before you tried it? You failedl to experience something new because the
mental picture formed beforehand over rode your curiosity and willingness to
test the unknown. Your words created that image of fear and failure. Later,
were you shocked and said, “That wasn’t as bad as I thought it would be”? To
your amazement, a dreaded situation turned out much better than ever
anticipated. You expected the worst. If you hadn’t been forced into action
you’d have missed out on an adventure because of wrong thinking brought on by
your words.
Controlling our words is crucial
for success in life not only for us but also for others. We prevent problems
when we monitor our speech. It’s easy to “tell it like it is” and then regret
the wild fire we created. Unfortunately the damage is done. We should heed
Smokey the Bear’s words of warning, “Only you can prevent forest fires,” and
exercise caution when we open our mouths and speak. When we watch what we say
we’ll keep out of the heat and gain mastery over our lives.
Mary: Very true thoughts here. Sometimes, I shoot off my mouth and have instant remorse. You are right when you say we must monitor our speech.
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